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The Art of Slowing Down, Christmas with (2!) Kids & Guest Karen Leslie
It’s here!
Grab some coffee (or tea) and enjoy 🫶
First things first Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you all!
If you’re anything like me you’re probably wondering where in the world December went. Between all the holiday activities, shopping (too much shopping), birthday parties, (did I mention holiday activities?), etcetera etcetera it’s no wonder the whole month blurs together and next thing you know you’re completely spent and sleep deprived and boom it’s 2025.
But my sincere and greatest hope for you is that you are filled to the brim with joy and amazement over the magic of the season and looking forward to whatever this next year may have in store!
Every year around this time I have a tendency to both reflect and look ahead. I don’t always write these down but thanks to Coffee & Crumbs and their January informal writing prompt, “What is One Hope You Have for 2024?”, I have something to look back on.
My response to Coffee & Crumb’s January prompt
It is so funny to look back on this with answers to those unknown questions but for the sake of time (it is Christmas Day after all) I am going to focus on just two things because they go hand-in-hand: my family and my book.
It was always ambitious to aspire to finish my book this year. It was even more ambitious to think that I could completely revise, edit, and query it in two months. I felt myself rushing, getting beyond frustrated, and altogether feeling overwhelmed, stressed and worn out. I realized this was bleeding over into other areas of my life—my marriage, motherhood. The week after my husband’s Pappy passed away brought multiple things into perspective including this realization all because I was forced to slow down and focus on what really matters.
This is not to say my writing and my book don’t matter. They absolutely do, but to quote Ian Simkins, “Often good things can become the enemy of the best things.”
Once I took a step back, let go of the ambitious (okay insanse) self-imposed deadline and slowed way down—it was like I could breathe again.
I actually got down on the floor to play with my kids. I went to bed at a decent hour and woke up feeling energized and refreshed. I enjoyed a good book, made some yummy meals, and went on lots of walks. With the pressure off I felt so much lighter. The greatest gift that week in the midst of the painful absence of my husband and loss of a beloved family member was being fully present with my children and what’s more, really truly enjoying them, which I honestly believe is one of the greatest gifts to any parent.
That being said I’ve been trying to lean into and practice the art of slowing down the rest of this holiday season and even into next year.
I know I’m cheating here with two words but my word(s) for 2025 are slow down.
This is our first Christmas with two children and I’ve come to realize kids really do make Christmas more magical simply because they force us to slow down. When we really take the time to look at things through their eyes, it’s like a never-ending stream of awestruck wonder and magnificence.
For instance my two, soon-to-be-three-year-old, daughter is currently obsessed with Frozen. The other day I relented and put the movie on while I prepped everything to make cookies. Trying to slow down, I took a break and watched the “Let It Go” scene with her only this time I tried to see it through her eyes. I stripped away my knowledge and understanding of graphics and animation and sound effects and simply allowed myself to just get lost in the magic of the scene and I was blown away. It was like seeing it for the first time but better. In that moment I finally understood why my daughter is so obsessed! Elsa’s castle (and Elsa herself) are stunning, breathtaking. It’s no wonder my daughter wants to live there—I do too! As I sat there, dumbfounded, I looked over at my daughter, completely mesmerized with the movie and wondered, Does she see the whole world this way?
Perhaps this is one of the reasons why Jesus calls us to be like little children (Matthew 18:2-5). How important is this in our every day lives, particularly during the Advent season? What impact could this have? Think about it—when we don’t allow ourselves to get hung up on the why and how and when and who and what but instead allow ourselves to get lost in the wonder and simply be amazed (because it is amazing), it’s possible then that we experience a closeness with him that is unparalleled and by default experience true joy, peace, hope, and love.
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and Happy New Year everyone.
May we all choose to slow down more in the new year 🤍
P.S. The book revisions will continue on into next year! I think this draft more than the others deserves time, lots of time. No rushing, just my best self doing my best work 🤓
This month’s read!
I have been so excited (and admittedly slightly nervous) about this month’s newsletter because 1) it’s technically the first official official newsletter with an actual guest writer and 2) that writer also happens to be my mother-in-law.
I hit the jackpot when it comes to mother-in-law’s. Karen has been there for me through thick and thin, highs and lows, smooth sailing and rocky terrain. She has never judged me in light of my mistakes—she has only ever loved me selflessly, generously and wholeheartedly. Not only that but she loves and adores my children and cares for my husband with what I consider to be the epitome of a mother’s love. She is who I look up to and admire and if I can be even half the woman, wife and mother she is, well, I would truly be so lucky.
Early on Karen and I connected over writing. She shared with me her dreams and vice versa. We often converse in-length about all things writing, ThrillerFest, book recs and so much more. It was she who introduced me to Scrivener and I will be forever thankful. It is she who has lent me book after book and never fails to hit the nail on the head with her recommendations. It is she who gave me some of the most valuable and insightful feedback and critique regarding my novel, much of which I decided to incorporate (and thank goodness because I believe my novel is so much stronger now).
When I asked Karen to be a guest I hoped she’d say yes because I know that others can benefit from her knowledge and wisdom, experience and expertise as much as I have. She is a truly talented and gifted writer and I wholeheartedly believe she will be published very, very soon. Please, do yourself a favor and follow along with her journey and honestly just get acquainted with a truly beautiful soul.
That being said, without further ado…
Enjoy the interview of
December’s Guest, Karen Leslie
Where are you from, what do you do, and fun fact about yourself!
I grew up in small town Pennsylvania with the freedom to play in nature unsupervised for hours and frequent visits to the library. I loved it! Somewhere between Island of the Blue Dolphins, The Velvet Room, and Charlotte’s Web, I started dreaming of writing novels. I read late into the night, during class, on the bus, under trees. I also fell in love with music and plays. Through college, though, I was encouraged to choose something…practical.
After I graduated Penn State I worked in PR for a non-profit. My kids were my priority while they were growing up. I combined my creative passions by learning lyric writing, which was really fun, satisfying, and fast. Still, I carried my soul dream— novel writing.
In 2010 I thought, “What am I waiting for?” and signed up for an MFA in Writing (Fiction) program (Sena Jeter Naslund-Karen Mann School of Writing). Finding incredible mentors and a community of writers—people I didn’t have to explain myself to—was pivotal for my confidence and word count! Over those years I produced a creative and critical thesis: “The Thin Places,” a collection of interconnected short stories, and “The Art of Compression: Short Stories & Songs.”
In 2015 I moved to Nashville and started teaching part-time at a local university and juggling marketing clients. Much to my chagrin, I’d found a way to be creative and practical. After I recovered from my MFA and moving, I started several novel-length stories but hit a wall at 30,000 words every time. In 2022 I finally found The Novelry, which has helped me fine-tune my writing practice and complete drafts. In 2024 I launched the first Stories & Songs Writing Retreat in Italy with a fellow MFA graduate. My husband, Clay Mills, is our songwriting master.
When I look back it’s been a long love affair and I’ve gotten to do a lot of amazing “writerly” things. Sometimes I wonder if I let everything take priority over the novel, or if I fought through the reality of life to hang onto the dream. As a young girl, I never imagined the journey would take so long—and still, it goes on. Maybe it’s good I didn’t know. My focus now is fine-tuning my current story, because the next one is haunting me!
What is your genre and how did you find yourself there?
When the Trees Go Silent falls into psychological suspense.
One rainy afternoon when I was 13 I perused my mother’s bookshelves and found Mistress of Mellyn by Victoria Holt (the pen name for Eleanor Alice Burford). This began my obsession with first person point of view, setting-based suspense stories. In fact, I think I have all the hardback versions of her novels on my bookshelf. When I started considering my own story ideas I remember why these stories still resonate: suspicious of every character, a little terrified of what might come next, delicious dread, and enthralled with setting. So, I’m writing what I like to read.
Share the inspiration for your current/latest story. What inspired the plot, characters, setting, etc?
Setting always inspires stories for me, whether its a house or nature. When I was a child I used to walk through our old house wondering who lived here before me and can walls really talk? When I was brainstorming When The Trees Go Silent, I wanted a setting that’s dual-natured: both safe and unsafe. The first place that came to mind was camp. Some of my best memories are as a counselor at 4-H camp. It was freedom in nature at the next level: competitive games, line-dancing, primitive living, communal eating, romance, sneaking out to the bonfire after hours—all in the middle of the deep, dark woods. By day, camp is silly and exuberant and physical. By night, however, it is unidentified nocturnal cries, boogie men, and terror-filled runs through the dark. Outside of the ongoing inspirations—something that happened in real life, something really devastating and wrong—made me wonder: how far will someone go to protect their "safe place"?
What does your writing process look like? What consistently works well for you?
This answer is long because I think it might be the most important!
Figuring out my writing process was key to finishing the first draft—and the second and the third… I write in the morning after breakfast with a cappuccino on stand by. My writing space is in my bedroom sitting area, which is large enough to feel like a dedicated space. Sometimes I go to a coffee shop but I’m not telling which one because it’s Nashville and parking is limited.
I’ve found if I do any kind of work before I write my brain is scrambled and unfocused. I use a few tools like “Focus” on my MacBook Pro, an hourglass, ambient noise, and the latest book I’m reading. As a writer I’m convinced you should read what it is you want to write. I learned that from my first MFA professor, Philip F. Deaver. He said: “Read, then write!” and “You can’t edit the blank page.” He was so influential to my enthusiasm and tolerance for writing as a long game.
If I’m stuck I’ll read a few pages of good writing in my genre, which often unlocks my words. If I’ve hit a wall I create a PDF file and listen to my story. Does it feel like all the audio books I love? Is the pace right? Do I care about the character as a listener? What is missing? What do I want next? Is it psychologically scary? But that can sometimes get me stuck in revision. So I usually only allow myself a reread of one or two previous chapters for polish and anchoring before pushing forward into the next chapter.
I try to write an entire scene or chapter before stopping; though there’s a lot of wisdom in walking away when you know what’s coming next (hank you, Hemingway). If I’m on a later revision I look at my chaptered outline before I leave the writing desk. I don’t always stick to it but it greases the wheels.
During the first draft I write new chapters pretty quickly, especially the first 30,000 words. I’m a “pantser,” but see the value in having a loose plan. It’s fun and kind of wonky and exciting, like steering your bike with your knees. For this second draft I acted like a surgeon and built a 30,000 word chaptered outline, deleting and combining characters and scenes. I can’t do that kind of planning until I have a first draft complete. In fact, maybe the chaptered outline is a reaction to what I’d written in my first draft?
I met with an editor (The Novelry) to get feedback on my outline and felt like I had a solid plan to move forward. It was fun to have someone excited about my story at this stage. The only thing that bothered me was the third person limited POV I’d chosen in the first draft. I don’t know why I did it. Habit from my MFA days or maybe keeping a distance from the story.
For me, psychological suspense requires first person POV so I decided to start over from scratch on my third draft. I just discovered it’s called “redrafting.” This draft was fast at first but it’s slowed down to a trickle as I try to hang onto all of the threads. It feels like a controlled exploration. I do feel this draft will be the one I edit and polish. Next time I’ll change POV in the first draft the minute I know I’m wrong!
Locking into a process—or solid writing practice—is probably the sole reason I got past my perennial 30,000 word wall.
Are you published yet? If so, what was your experience like?
If not, what are your hopes around publishing?
Do you have any questions about the publishing process you want answered?
I have a short story, guest travel blogs, and dozens of trade articles published. For this novel my hope is to secure a radically cool and effective agent with a polished draft. I’ve pitched the idea at Thrillerfest and gotten a great response. For that reason I feel the premise is spot on, so it’s all about delivery now, isn't it? I am anticipating rejections because it happens to every writer. After all this drafting I’ll consider rejection as a sign I’m in forward motion. (Of course, you might want to check back with me later!)
Please share your top tips and advice for other writers. What has helped you most on your writing journey?
If you don’t have a daily or regular writing practice, if it gets bumped off your schedule in place of less important things, then consider making your practice (or process) sacred.
Protect your dream, because little by little your work will come alive, become something real and complete.
A few other bits of wisdom I follow:
Don’t talk more than you write.
Write every day.
Use “TBD” to fill in places that you might veer off into the black hole of research and come back to it later.
Don’t show anyone the first draft.
Best Advice I've Gotten for Life and Writing:
One of my writer friends, Katy Yocum, offered me this simple piece of wisdom when I was complaining about not having time to write. She said she, in fact, was passing it on:
“Consider every time you say ‘yes’ to something—no matter how important or fun—that you are saying ‘no’ to your writing.”
That did it for me. I pass it on every chance I get.
One more thing—you’ll have friends and loved ones who don’t get what you do, or don’t understand that your “busyness” as a writer is about carving out a writing life. I have heard, “Wow, you’re busy” and “Hurry up and finish” or “When are you getting published?” or “Cool passion (interpret as hobby)”. As a former people pleaser, those comments acted like a speed bump. I am busy because I have to go in a few different directions to cobble together a writing life—a writing living—while I’m writing my novel. I admit, I still fantasize about letting go of all the threads so I can just concentrate. Maybe one day. In the meantime, I write. I edit other people’s writing. I write promotional copy and travel blogs and proofread and coach. I teach. This is my life as a writer in this season. Knowing me, I’ll always be busy—and happy doing it!
Why did I mention this?
Because, until you look at your writing pursuits and writing life as sacred—something to be protected and nurtured, something worth your time and energy and focus—everything else just as worthwhile will get all the “yesses.” Say “no” thoughtfully and happily.
You can follow and connect with Karen via the following!
Writing Prompts: readthenwrite.org
Portfolio: karenlesliewriter.com
Contact: [email protected]
Socials: @karenlesliewriter @storiesandsongsretreat
What kind of learner are you and how does this play a role in your writing?
What kind of reader are you? Do you like to have more answers than questions after finishing a book or do you like there to be more room for interpretation? (AKA you kind of like when a book keeps you up night and you’re still thinking about it months, even years, later)
When did you first fall in love with writing?
What is your writing dream for 2025?
Thank you for reading this month’s newsletter! I’ll “see” you next month! Until then…
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